Priyanka Chopra frequently praises her husband Nick Jonas, describing him as her biggest fan. Recently, the actor discussed her previous relationships and how they shaped her perception of herself as a “doormat.”
Priyanka was asked on the newest edition of the Call Her Daddy podcast whether she had a pattern when picking her love partner. “I went from relationship to relationship to relationship,” the actor stated, referring to herself as a “monogamist.” I didn’t allow myself any time between relationships until my final one.
I was always dating the actors I worked with or the folks I met on the set. I just assumed I knew what a relationship should be like.
I basically felt I had a concept of what a relationship should be like, so I continued looking for it and attempting to fit the individuals who came into my life into that picture.”
Priyanka, on the other hand, opted to give herself some space following her last relationship before marrying Nick Jonas. She stated that she wanted to consider why she keeps making the same mistakes in her relationships.
The biggest error she believes she made was believing herself a ‘caretaker’ and prioritising her man’s needs and his career over her own.
“The mistake was always feeling like I needed to be the caretaker, always feeling like it’s okay to cancel my job, work, meeting, or priority to make sure he’s propped up.” For so long, it had been so normalised in my mind that I ended up relinquishing authority in such a twisted way that I never spoke up for myself.
“I literally would become a doormat and I was like, okay, that’s fine because, you know, that’s what women have been told for so long that our role is to glue the family together or make your man feel comfortable when he comes back home,” Priyanka explained.
Priyanka further blamed her thinking on her upbringing in a “patriarchal society” where “there’s a normalcy around the man eating first and then women.”
However, the Citadel star quickly discovered that what she was doing was “self-destructive,” and she began to feel “invisible” in her relationships. “I got to a point in my life where I was like, what the f*** are you doing?” she explained.
At this point, I’m becoming self-destructive, so when I had to pick myself, I had to act as if I owed nothing to anyone but my family and myself, the ones who actually love me. When you are in a relationship where you no longer recognise yourself, you lose your identity.
When you are in relationships where you no longer recognise who you are, no longer have your own identity, or no longer know what you want for yourself, what your objectives are, you become invisible. And I’ve just begun to feel invisible in my relationships.”
Things changed once Priyanka began dating American musician Nick Jonas, who, in her opinion, “thrives on seeing me shine.”
“My husband makes me feel so seen and heard, and in fact, he thrives on seeing me shine, like he is the most excited about the shows I am doing, he is the most excited when I am on a carpet, and he will step aside and take pictures of me,” Priyanka explained.
