Well, as Indian society allows all men to be falling under the eligibility criteria of getting married if they are above 21, but acquiring this mere age mark is not important. The more necessary requirement for man is look for the things which are laid back and eradicate imposing unnecessary pressure on a bride, rather treat her like a princess who is going to enlighten your life. Your kids are also going to raised in this family, so make sure you just do not get married for the sake of the society and induce extra pressures on the brides end instead come out as an example to abandon the reinforced ideologies as perceived.
Every Indian man must look for the below mentioned things before getting married:
1. Abandon this dowry trauma:
Well dowry is not always forcible; it is still exchanged by groom’s side family in terms of a gift for the daughter. However, anything materialistic that is exchanged is counted as a dowry and parents are not spilling any happiness by doing this. Some to maintain their society standards implement this laid back system, but it is simply an ugly side of the beautiful relation two people are going to fly their lives with.
2. Women are questionable:
Instead of the fact that we are traveling on the broader minds and modernity, it is women who are victimized more in this match making scenario. She is questioned if she is dark, fair, tall or short. The most prevalent question that is asked by his man to be is “are you virgin” even though the guy had been sexually active with multiple partners. A girl need to be a pious deed. Well, equality standards need to be imposed on the same grounds whether it is for a man or a woman.
3. Girl’s parents bear all the marriage expenses:
On one side, the girl’s parents are gearing away from their daughter, on top of that they are imposed to bear all expenses of the marriage and fulfill extra demands laid by the in-laws. More than a beautiful bondage, it is a deed signed between two families which overshadow the amazing bond of tying knot.
4. Do not over spend on marriages:
It has also been seen that a lot of young men spend most of their hard earned money in their marriages in order to undergo for a lavish and extravagant marriage, just to impress the society, not each other. That’s why this marriage customs are overtaken more by society instead of doing things for each other.
5. Do not detach her from her parents:
It is a widely known fact that marriages distances a girl from her parents and she makes herself adaptable to all the new surrounding for which she has to make her own family and home. Set an example and do not detach her from her parents, rather you take an initiative for the often meets with her parents. It’s you who need to stand headstrong.
6. Marital rape is obscene:
It is true that marital rapes are prevalent in our country and no one can do anything if the girl won’t volume her voice. Marital sex is necessary but forceful acts are not conceived as a healthy vibe of a relationship. Caress her, love her, but do not molest your life partner as she has taken a step with you to live her life not to devastate the same.
7. Stop seeing your wife as replacements of your mother
Well. It’s an ideal mentality that is prevalent among many young men who gets hitched and they see their wife as the replacement of their mothers. However, it is not happening. Today, we live in 2015 and every girl has aspirations for her career. Let her glide with her aims in spite of clinching her with the home affairs and making her a house wife.
When you show a step of understanding, it is widely appreciated, as a girl do it unwillingly but your efforts will be glanced on a broaden periphery.
